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Let’s say you met a great woman who liked you too. You went on a few funfilled dates, all with the opportunity for the sex to happen. Then that opportunity came, you took it A few months have passed and now you are in a committed loving Relationship. Congratulations Now what?
Huge Rewards, Huge Responsibility
Obviously, your
new goal is to make your new relationship work for a lifetime. But
surprisingly, most guys don’t even think of this. Most guys see the perks of
being in a relationship with a woman, but they don’t see the responsibility.
In fact, most guys think of the “job”
to make a relationship work as being divided equally between themselves and
their girlfriend. They think that whenever relationships fail, half the time
it’s the man’s fault while the other half of the time, it’s the woman’s fault.
But nope. While some failed relationships ARE caused by crazy women who have no
business being in a relationship, the vast majority are the men’s
responsibility.
Here’s why: A failure in relationship
means a failure in leadership. And by now, you should know that the leader of
your relationship is you. If your girlfriend gets upset or unhappy, it means
you’re not meeting her needs. And when you disregard her complaints as the
“outbursts of a bratty little girl,” it means you’re not really all that
concerned in meeting her needs. So she naturally goes elsewhere to have her
needs met. So let me say that again:
A failure in relationship means a
failure in leadership. So How Do You Lead a Relationship Well? The key is to
always be the leader in your relationship. You got to be the strong, dominant,
capable guy who delivers on all (or at least MOST) of his promises and who
constantly grows and improves himself over time. But at the same time, while
you’re busy meeting her needs and your own, you should also demand respect.
Remember, you’re the leader, not the subordinate. You’re the master, not the
slave. You don’t live for her; you live for your mission in life. Your woman
should be in submission, she must submit to your mission. In other words, she
should aid, assist and support you in fulfilling your mission and purpose in
life.
She cannot, and should not ever be the
mission and purpose. How to Know You’re Not Ready Remember one of the core
traits you should be developing in yourself is honesty. And a huge part of
honesty is about being honest with yourself including when it comes to knowing
when you’re NOT ready to handle a relationship. How do you know you’re NOT
ready? Here are a few signs: You’re not committed to being a lifelong leader of
your relationship You’re still “okay” with the idea of a relationship being a
50/50 deal, where you “share” leadership and responsibility with your woman.
You’re still a people-pleaser that is,
you’re addicted to making people like you and when people DON’T like you, you
take it personally If you still have any of the traits above then while you
SHOULD keep meeting and dating women, perhaps it’s best if you waited until
you’re ready before you got into a serious relationship. But on the other hand,
if you ARE ready and if you’re WILLING to accept the lifelong responsibility,
come hell or high water then congratulations. You’re about to enter the most
challenging, character-building, and rewarding phase of a man’s life
